When it comes to dating, it all boils down to confidence. Confidence. Confidence. Everyone’s talking about confidence. But that word has become over-used in today’s society, and the problem is that you don’t really know what to do to attain a higher level of self-confidence.
Well here are three key elements that will boost your self-assurance, giving you the opportunity and the courage to approach and seduce more women than you could have imagined.
The three keys are…
1. Accepting failure. Failures are a great deal of help. They actually help you on your way to success. They help you to get stronger, and nothing teaches more harshly than failures.
Let’s have a look what a “failure” really is. You have to change your way of thinking. Start seeing a failure as a temporary battle you lost. An ancient War General in Rome said that “some battles have to be lost in order to win the war”.
Face it: no one wins at everything. You can’t have a one hundred percent success rate, at least not on the long term, and especially not in dating. A failure results of an action, or of a chain of actions, just as success does.
Whereas success is positive, a failure is negative. But still, it’s a result. And if you don’t like the result, the only thing you have to do is change your way of doing by improving your skills, until you get a success. Some people never fail, because they never try. But if you never try, you’ll never get anything back.
And so since you already have a result (a “failure”, or “opportunity to do better”), you just have to tweak a thing or two in your way of doing until you get the result you want.
2. Be open to change. If you haven’t had much success in the past, that means that something has to be modified, improved. But when you say the word change, it scares people, and that’s perfectly normal. Why? Because change is frightening. People are afraid of the unknown.
How often do you hear people complaining about their jobs, about how many hours they spend commuting, about how their boss is a real pain in the neck, about the wages that aren’t high enough, and so on.
But do these people ever change jobs? Or even look for new ones? Well, they very, very rarely do. Why? Because as I told you, change is scary.
Accept to change your point of view on certain things, accept to be open to new advice and to learn to think in a new and positive way.
If you change your actions, the outcome will change too.
3. Stay in the real world. The title says it all. As you’ve maybe experienced it in the past, we men tend to behave strangely when we like a woman.
From canceling Friday nights with friends to paying huge amounts to the phone provider, there are dozens of strange things we tend to do, things we weren’t doing before meeting that particular woman.
We tend to lose track of the reality.
That’s why you must be very, very careful and to stay as close to the reality as possible.
The reason why I’m telling you this is because there are thousands of guys out there literally running after women, spending hours and hours of their time trying to seduce girls who are not even interested in seeing the shadows of those ass-kissers. And after having spent countless hours on the phone, plenty of energy and a good deal of money buying her gifts, the guy will eventually let go of it all, criticizing the girl.
That’s a terrible approach to seducing a woman. The right thing to do would have been to let go of the girl at the very start, when the guy was getting negative signs from the girl, such as no calling back or canceling dates.
The key is to pay close attention to what is really happening in that dating life of yours.
Stay as objective and realistic as possible.
Being clearly focused and on the look-out for inappropriate woman behavior will keep you away of any kind of confusing situations.
Theses are the three keys to achieving greater confidence.
Use them wisely and you’ll soon be opening the door to unprecedented success in your dating life.
About the Author:
Matthias Mazur is the author of the free report, "How To Avoid The 10 Killer Mistakes That Destroy Your Success With Women". Drop by at http://www.seduceandkeep.com for your free copy.
3 Secrets to Boost Your Confidence When Approaching Women
