There are two kind of relationships, they are either built on stone, or else built on sand. When a relationship is built on stone the foundation often stands, since love, trust, honesty, communication and other elements that compose a healthy relationship continues throughout the terms of the commitment. On the other hand, the relationships built on sand lack the elements required to make love grow and relationships to prosper.
Bad relationships are built on “You trust me, but I decide if I will trust you.” Selfishness composes bad relationships, since one or both parties are out for gain, rather than to give and share.
Selfishness is an egotism state of mind where the person feels that some owes him/her something. Rarely do they consider what they owe; rather they believe that the world is forever in debt to him or her. When a person feels the world owes them, they often lack consideration, respect, loyalty, faithfulness, and commitment. The egotistic minds often base relationships with family, friends and mate on what can I get from you. At the onset of a bad relationship, the mate with egotistical thinking will seduce his/her partner, making him or her believe there are only good intentions in the new relation. In other words, the person leads the other partner to believe that he or she has the best interest for the partner and of the relationship in mind. Often this type of relationship will move along fast, since the partner with egotistical thinking strives to prevent the other mate from noticing his/her real intentions.
It is quite common that these types of relationships are built only on sexual interest rather than true love. As the relationship progresses the mate believing that good intentions were intended at the beginning often find out when it is too late the relationship is heading down a dead end road, with only one partner working.
Different relationships in the world boil down to good or bad relationships. When two people join in intimate relations, both parties must work hard to make the relationship work. A bad relationship will utilize tools believing that the mechanisms will keep the spice in his or her life when they feel tired out of the mate. In other words, a bad relationship focuses mostly on sexual gratification, which never occurs. The person may engage in pornographic reading or viewing, promiscuous relationships, violence, and so forth to gratify the desire.
The love given by these people are superficial love that focuses only on gain. Desire is their only intention and thus, they will lack the elements that make love work. Few egotistical types change over time, while others become more aggressive and seek harder to gratify their desires. The ultimate desire of these people is to please self, while taking what they can get from others and at the same time manipulating others into believing they are good souls.
Loneliness is one of the key factors that land love hungry souls in bad relationships. Bad relationships are neglecting, failure directed, and often abusive. If you are in a relationship and your partner is out for self-gain,take warning now, since in most instances failure is the path you will walk. Some self-seeking souls may turn violent as time passes, and will frequently neglect their mate. This kind of partner will disrespect, and place ongoing doubt in the mind of the partner, until a breakdown occurs.
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