In the majority of cases, it seems to be to make their partner happy. Although, if their partner found out, they would probably be far from happy.
Having an orgasm can be difficult for women, during sex some only have one occasionally, some never do, only being able to have an orgasm through masturbation. Some women have never reached orgasm at all.
For a lot of women it is not a problem, they enjoy the closeness and intimacy, not just from sexual intercourse, but also from kissing, cuddling, stroking, fondling and hugging. They can enjoy sex mentally and physically, an orgasm is just the icing on the cake.
Men tend to see their orgasm as the most important part of sex, and so assume that it is the same for women. Most men want to feel that they have satisfied their partner and feel he has failed if she doesn't reach orgasm. So a lot of women fake it rather than let the man feel badly about his performance.
Women also fake it for other reasons, they may not want to appear unable to live up to their partners sexual expectations, or she might be having difficulty reaching orgasm and want to end the sex rather than spend hours with her partner trying desperately to make her climax, resulting in both of them feeling frustrated, disappointed and even unhappy.
Although the majority of women have done it to varying degrees, only seven per cent of men know that their partner fakes orgasm. 17 per cent don't know and 30 per cent are not sure but that they suspect she probably does at least some of the time. Most women would like to have orgasms with their partners, but instead of communicating with them, they pretend everything is great, so the man continues to do the same things.
To improve sexual intercourse it is important to communicate, so both partners can learn what each other likes and what works best. If a woman starts faking orgams, it then becomes difficult to discuss the problems she is having without admitting that she was faking them. The best solution is not to fake it at all, talking about it might be embarrassing at first, but surely enjoying sex is better than pretending, and you won't feel bad about having to lie to your partner.
A woman may also have problems climaxing if she is worried about sex. If it takes her a long time, she might worry that her partner will think he's doing something wrong, this will make her worry more and take even longer. Most men are happy to spend as long as is needed to please their partner, talk to each other and you will find that you are worrying for nothing. She could also worry about how she looks, smells and tastes, a man should reasure a woman by telling her with words, sounds and looks, how he adores her, loves the taste of her, could keep on touching her forever, that he loves to give her pleasure, And mean it, if you don't already know how to pleasure a woman, learn how to do it, fumbling around in the dark without a clue will only make a woman more likely to fake an orgasm.
An orgasm is more likely to happen if you aren't stressing about getting there. Rather than concentrating on trying to have an orgasm, relax and enjoy the sensations, if you have an orgasm, great, if not, you can still enjoy sex and it might happen next time, but make sure you tell your partner that you still enjoyed it and that he is a good lover. If you find it embarrassing to tell your partner what you want let know by making sounds or just moving their hand to a place that gives you greater pleasure.
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